This is a complete transcript of
Getting into the Vortex
by Esther and Jerry Hicks
(The Teachings of Abraham®)
Meditation
Relationships
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It is nice to have this opportunity
to visit about relationships.
There is no subject of greater significance
to you than relationships,
for without others,
you could not be you.
Your relationships with the others with whom you share
your planet are valuable to you in several ways. It is obvious to
most that your diversity of talents and interests creates an overall
environment of balance. But you are helpful to one another
in other significant ways as well.
Every person with whom you interact is a part of the person
you are becoming. Not a single interaction with a single
person is left out of the process of your becoming.
Your interaction with others helps you to define your
own personal preferences, and even if you are not speaking
those preferences out loud, you are projecting them Vibrationally,
and they become the foundation of your very expansion.
Many people assume that only pleasing relationships have
value, but that is not the case. Your awareness of an unwanted
situation evokes from you a clear Vibrational request for
something different. And so, even those uncomfortable interactions
with others form the Vibrational basis of your expansion.
People often believe that the value of interacting with
others is mostly about combining talents and actions in order
to accomplish the things that need to be done in a society, but
your interaction with one another is much more important than
that. You are helping one another define the attributes of your
individual and collective expansion. In other words, even the
briefest of encounters with another person is actually contributing
to your expansion as an Eternal Being.
It is our desire to help you return to your natural appreciation
of the others with whom you are sharing your planet so that you
can fully enjoy every encounter with others, no matter how brief,
or regardless of whether you agree with them or not.
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The others with whom you share your planet
are of tremendous value to you
even when you want different things;
and your Earth environment
is large enough to accommodate
all of the variety of interests,
beliefs, and desires.
The more choices that are available to you, the richer
your life becomes. In other words, a food buffet with a vast variety
of choices holds a greater potential of satisfying you than
a limited buffet. Every aspect of your life is enriched when there
is variety from which to choose—and your variety of choices
has never been greater.
We are not only speaking about the variety of choices
that you have regarding life styles, but also choices regarding
behaviors, emotional responses, personality characteristics, attitudes,
moods, reactions to situations.... You are surrounded by
varieties and options from which you are creating the expanded
version of you.
There are many situations, attitudes, life styles, even food
choices that you do not want to participate with. Through
the living of your life, you have identified many wanted and
unwanted aspects, and it is important to remember than none
of those unwanted things can jump into your experience, because
there is no assertion in your attraction-based Universe.
The choices that others make cannot negatively impact
your experience unless you include them in your experience
through your attention to them. Things come to you only
through your Vibrational invitation—and they remain only by
your continuing attention to them.
Your Universe is based upon freedom. Freedom for everyone
to choose what they give their attention to, and therefore
what they choose to experience. And your interaction with
one another provides a contrasting basis that assures continual
expansion.
When another achieves Vibrational alignment with something
they desire, they in no way deprive you of your desires.
If your time-space reality has inspired a desire within you, it is
certain that your desire can be fulfilled, for your Earth environment
has the potential of satisfying the essence of all desires.
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Your differences are of great advantage
in the stimulation of new ideas,
and are important to your expansion.
You came here eagerly
anticipating the expansion
that would be born
from your interaction
with others.
It is easy to understand the concept of the more variety
there is to choose from, the more choices you would have, but
there is an even larger benefit that is born from the contrasting
differences that surround you: as the details of unwanted things
come into focus for you in your physical dimension, equivalent
wanted things come into focus in the Non-physical dimension.
Whenever you know emphatically that you do not want something,
you project a frequency that holds precise information about what
you do want into your Vortex of Creation. And your Inner Being,
the Source within you, holds steady to that new-and-improved Vibration...
As a problem is taking shape in your awareness, an equivalent
solution is taking shape at the same time; and as questions occur,
the equivalent answers are born.
From your Non-physical vantage point, before your birth
into this physical body, you understood this wonderful process
of Eternal expansion, and you came into your physical body
with tremendous eagerness. You saw the variety of your
planet—and especially the contrasting points of view of the
human population—as the perfect basis not only for expansion,
but for joyous expansion. You knew that every problem would
bring a solution and that every question would bring an answer,
and you were thrilled about your part in the creation of those solutions
and answers.
Before your birth, you understood the value of contrast,
and you believed in your ability to focus in the direction of solutions;
but, most important, you felt no aversion to problems because
you knew that they are all part of the process of Eternal expansion.
You relished the idea of joyful exploration; personal choosing,
and deliberate focus. Co-creating at it’s best!
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When you understand the value
of differing opinions,
you will reap immediate value
from every relationship;
and since you cannot make others change
to please you,
appreciating them where they are
will give you ease.
The more perspectives that enter the mix, the greater potential
for wonderful creations. Even when you feel strong opposition
to the opinions or perspectives of others, your interaction with
them provides the basis for expansion and solutions and
answers that you would not have access to without their
seemingly problematic positions.
We encourage you to make peace with everyone who opposes
you and with everyone whom you oppose, not only because you
cannot insist on their yielding to your perspective but because
their opposing perspective is of tremendous benefit to you.
You see, because of your exposure to what you perceive as their
wrong or bad or unwanted behavior or perspective—you have given
birth to an improved situation. And just as they helped the problem
side of the equation to come into focus they helped the solution
side of the equation to come into focus, also, and that solution
waits for you in your Vortex of Creation.
Through this Daily Meditation Process, you will come
into alignment with those solutions and creations that are in
your Vortex, and from inside your Vortex, you will feel appreciation
for everyone who contributed to its becoming. Deciding
in advance to appreciate them—even before you are in your
Vortex and even before the solutions have shown themselves to
you—will shorten the process and bring you faster to the solutions
you seek. And, even more important, your life will feel good to you
every step along the way.
When you make peace with those who differ in desire
and belief and behavior from your ideas of what is appropriate,
you do not perpetuate what you consider to be wrong. Instead,
you align with the solution side of the equation that has been
waiting for you in your Vortex of Creation.
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Sometimes it seems like others
have the power
to negatively affect your experience,
but that is never true:
only your response to them
has the power to pinch you off
from the naturally good-feeling person
you are…
It always feels good to notice the positive aspects of another,
because in doing so, you remain in complete alignment
with the broader perspective of the Source within you. And
since the positive behavior of others does feel good, it is logical
that you would enjoy giving your attention to that.
But if you become reliant on the behavior of others to
keep you feeling good, then when you observe unwanted behavior,
it is logical that you would not feel good. And the worst part of that
is, you then believe that your feeling good is dependent upon their
behavior, over which you have no control.
And so, a belief that the behavior of others must be controlled—
so that your observation of that good behavior will make you
feel good—leaves you feeling vulnerable to their behavior.
We would like to help you to understand that neither the
good feeling you find when you observe wanted behavior, nor
the bad feeling you find when you observe unwanted behavior,
is actually the reason that you feel good or bad. The way you
feel is only ever about your alignment, or misalignment, with
the Source within you. It is only your relationship with the
Source within you (with your own Inner Being) that is the reason
for the emotions that you feel.
While it is nice to find things in your physical environment
that enhance your good-feeling alignment with your Inner
Being, your understanding of why you feel good will make it
possible for you to feel good regardless of the behavior of others.
Understanding that the way you feel is really about your
Vibrational relationship with your Inner Being—with the Source
within you; with the expanded version of you who resides inside your
Vortex—gives you complete empowerment and absolute freedom.
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Sometimes others believe
that their happiness depends
upon your response to them,
but that is never true;
and if you encourage them to believe that—
and stand on your head to please them—
you don’t help them,
or you.
When others are pleased by your behavior it often feels
very good to you. It’s always nice to see others when they are
feeling good, and it feels good to know that you had something
to do with their feeling good. But if any other comes to rely on
your behavior for their good feeling—then both you and they
are at a great disadvantage.
If you make your relationship with your Inner Being your
top priority, and you deliberately choose thoughts that allow
your alignment, you will consistently offer the greatest advantage
to the others with whom you interact. Only when you are
aligned with your Source do you have anything to offer another.
If your behavior is influenced by your desire to keep another
person happy, you will lose your Connection to your
Source. And it is not possible for you to be happy unless you are
in alignment with your Source. Without that alignment, you
have nothing to offer another.
Our daily meditation process will help you to consistently
release resistance and to come into alignment with the power
and clarity and love that is really who-you-are—and then anyone
who you hold as your object of attention will benefit.
Others will notice the consistent happiness that you are
experiencing, and they can benefit from the power of your example.
As you let them know that your happiness is dependent only upon
your own ability to focus yourself into alignment with who-you-really-are,
you can assist them in discovering the same freedom for themselves.
Rather than attempting the impossible task of trying to behave in
ways that please others, show them the ease of finding your
consistent alignment... You will always find happiness inside your
Vortex. And the happiness that they are seeking is inside their Vortex.
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When you expect another to succeed
without the benefit of your help—
you see them as their Source sees them.
When you believe another needs your help,
and you attempt to shore up their weakness
with your strength—
you help them not.
When you are in your Vortex and in alignment with your
Broader Perspective, and are focused upon other humans, your
attention to them is helpful. Whenever you are aligned with the
powerful Energy of your Source, anything you focus upon receives
the benefit of your gaze.
When you are in your Vortex, and in alignment with your
Inner Being, you are then tuned to seeing only success in the
other humans you are observing. Whenever you are aware of
the problems of others, it always means that you are not in your
Vortex and you are not in alignment with the way the Source
within you is viewing them.
When you are feeling the discomfort from seeing other people in
lackful or needy situations, and you decide to help them from your
place of discomfort, no lasting value ever occurs, for two important
reasons: first, you are not in alignment with the Energy of your
Source and so you have no real value to give, and second, your
attention to their need only amplifies their need.
Of course it is a wonderful thing to help others, but you
must do it from your position of strength and alignment, which
means you must be in alignment with their success as you offer
assistance, and not in alignment with their problem.
It is easy to know if your offer is coming from a place of
alignment or resistance, because you can always tell by the way
you are feeling. When your awareness of their situation makes
you uncomfortable and you offer help to make them feel better
and to make yourself feel better, you are not in the Vortex and
you are not helping.
When you feel an inspired eagerness to offer something because
you want to participate in their happy successful process,
your attention to their success harmonizes with the point of
view of your Source; and the infinite resources of the Universe
are at your disposal. And that does help.
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When you look for another’s strengths,
even when they are hard to find,
your attention to them amplifies them;
and, in time,
because of the spotlight you have shined,
those strengths will become apparent
to others as well.
Sometimes others are so focused on the unpleasant details
of their current situation that they are unable to catch even
a glimpse of hope for things to turn around. Because they are
so embroiled in the reality they are living, they continue to perpetuate
Vibrations that match what they don’t want—and so they continue
to attract more of what they don’t want.
But when you have been practicing your Vibration of
alignment, and you are consistently inside your Vortex, you are
able to see them as the successful person that they truly are
rather than the person who is temporarily pinching off their success.
They are often so far Vibrationally removed from the success
that awaits them inside their Vortex that they are unable to
find their way in; but because you are already inside the Vortex,
and you are holding them as your object of attention from inside
the Vortex, they are able to see you, and feel you.
That is what the power of uplifting influence really is:
because you are able to recognize their true power and therefore
shine a spotlight upon it, sometimes they are then able to catch
a glimpse of it themselves.
Your negative attention to anything perpetuates more
negative attention. Your positive attention to anything perpetuates
more positive. However, your positive attention is much more
influential than your negative attention, because when you
align with your Source inside your Vortex—you access the
power that creates worlds.
Our daily meditation process will help you to find and maintain
your alignment with the Energy that creates worlds, so that
you can then offer your true power of upliftment as you shine
the spotlight of your gaze upon others. Literally everyone you think
about from inside the Vortex benefits.
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When others lash out at you in anger,
with words or action,
their battle is not with you
but with themselves; and if you do not
take their behavior personally—
understanding it is their personal battle—
in time they’ll leave you out of it.
It always feels good to observe another person who is feeling good;
and when their happiness is associated with your behavior it can
feel especially good to you.
You are an uplifter, and it feels good to be a part of uplifting
another. But if you encourage others to believe that their
happiness is dependent upon your behavior, you are doing a
very big disservice to them and to yourself. You will eventually
grow weary of attempting the impossible task of keeping others
happy. For as their demands on you increase, you will lose your
important sense of being free. And often, since you are the one
present in their life trying to help, when they don’t feel better,
they blame you.
Everyone holds a mix of opinions, beliefs and expectations on a
myriad of subjects. When you give your attention to something,
that Vibration becomes activated and comes to the forefront, so to
speak; and the more often you focus upon it, and cause it to come
to the forefront, the more dominant it becomes.
You have the option of making a good-feeling aspect of another
person dominant in your Vibration or of making a bad feeling
aspect dominant in your Vibration, and whatever aspect you regularly
choose will become the Vibrational basis of your relationship.
When your happiness becomes your highest priority, and
so you deliberately keep active the best-feeling aspects of others,
you will train your Vibrational frequency in such a way that
they will not be able to rendez-vous with you in any way that
does not feel good when it happens.
The only way for anyone to be consistently happy is to
understand that the feeling of happiness is simply about alignment
with the Source who is within them. When you are in your
Vortex of Creation, you are lined up with all-that-you-have become
and with everything that you have asked for. There simply
is no substitute for that alignment.
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Sometimes you think it is important
what others think of you,
and so you work
to extract approval from them.
However, there really is little
that you can do to keep their approval coming—
for it is never about you,
but about them.
When you are children, the adults around you want you
to modify your behavior in ways that please them, which sometimes
doesn’t seem like such a bad idea from their perspective,
but ultimately has far reaching detrimental outcomes for both
the child and the adult.
It doesn’t work out for the one who is attempting to do the pleasing,
because there are too many people who want different things from you,
and keeping up with the ever-changing ideas of what another believes
is appropriate behavior is no small task. And it also doesn’t work out
for the one who wants to be pleased, because if you are able to get some
others to modify their behavior to please you, then you are continuously
needing control of others, or cooperation from others, to be pleased.
An impossible and futile endeavor.
If you have developed the pattern of working hard to keep those
around you happy, then when they aren’t happy; when they are
presenting their anger to you, you may feel that their anger has
something to do with your behavior. They often work hard to make
you believe that you are the primary reason for their problem, but you
have undoubtedly discovered that the more you attempt to modify
your behavior to keep another happy, the more modification of your
behavior they seem to require. Again, an impossible and futile endeavor.
When you demonstrate your consistent state of happiness that you are
achieving by being aware of your Vortex and holding thoughts that
allow your frequent entrance into it (and, even more important, you do
not modify your behavior to try to soothe or solve the problems of others)
you will offer them—through the power of your example—the secret to
their own true happiness.
Being happy is a very personal thing—and it really has nothing
to do with anyone else.
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If you will release all concern
about how others feel about you,
and focus only upon how you feel about them,
you will unearth your core understanding
of who-you-really-are,
and you will discover
what true freedom really is.
The current opinion that another holds regarding you has far more to
do with how they are feeling (whether they are in alignment with their
own Source, and whether they are in or out of their Vortex at the time)
than it has to do with you or your behavior.
There is perhaps no greater waste of time and effort than that of
trying to influence the way other people see you, because what they
see has very little to do with their object of attention and everything to do
with the vantage point from which they are looking. How others feel
about you is really about their relationship with their own Vortex.
Since their good feeling is about their relationship with their Inner
Being, or with them being inside their Vortex, then your best
plan of helping them to feel better is always to encourage or influence
them into their Vortex. But you can only effectively do that when
you are inside your own Vortex and in alignment with your own
Inner Being.
So if you are observing someone who is unhappy (for any reason),
your very observation of their unhappiness prevents you from being
in your Vortex—and so it is not possible for you to help them.
But if, instead, your priority is being inside your own Vortex,
and you do not allow yourself to focus upon their problem or their
unhappiness, and you remain inside your Vortex... now, as you
hold them as your object of attention from inside your Vortex, you
may influence them to enter their Vortex, and therefore feel better.
True freedom is found in the absence of resistance. It is about being
able to feel good and to be inside your Vortex regardless of the
situations or conditions that surround you. True freedom is the discovery
of maintaining unconditional love—of being able to maintain your
“in the Vortex” position regardless of conditions.
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At your core, you are more alike than different,
for you share a common thread
of Source and love and expansion.
And so, if you feel threatened by another,
that threat is not real,
for only you can stop
the flow of your natural Well-Being.
None of you take it well when you are out of alignment with your
Source. The feeling of emptiness that you experience when you are
disallowing your connection to your power and Energy and clarity is
extremely unpleasant. And often—when you or others are in that
state of resistance—you display your disconnection by taking it
out on others.
When you see anyone trying to control others, you are witnessing
someone who is outside of their Vortex and pinching off their own
resources of Well-Being. They are futilely attempting to compensate
for their self-imposed denial of resources by bullying someone else.
If you allow the threatening or unpleasant behavior of another
to make you feel bad, you have simply joined the chain-of-pain outside
of your Vortex. We want you to understand that they hold no
power over you.
Everyone wants to feel good, to be of value, to be engaged with life,
to feel progress, to learn new things, and to feel love. But many
people are looking for love in all the wrong places. When you
witness unpleasant behavior in another, it is not so different from
seeing someone with a pillow being pressed to their face depriving
them of the air they need to breathe. The unpleasant behavior is
equivalent to them flailing about, desperate for life-giving air.
So just remember, when anyone is behaving aggressively
or rudely toward you, they are simply desperate for the alignment
of their Vortex. It really isn’t about you. It is not their threat or their
seeming power or strength or position that is jeopardizing your life
or your happiness. It is only your attention to something that prevents
your Vibrational alignment with Source that can diminish your
Well-Being—and you have complete control over that.
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As you insist on looking
for positive aspects in others,
in time, only positive aspects
can be shown to you,
for you will have incrementally adjusted
your Vibrational point of attraction;
and, by Law, that must be so.
Every thought that you have ever focused upon has the potential of
being activated again; however your brain is not storing all of those
thoughts and then projecting them to you randomly. You are activating
them because of whatever you are focused upon.
As you deliberately look for positive aspects in others who surround
you, you will train your Vibrational propensity into increasingly
improved Vibrations. So it doesn’t matter how many negative thoughts
you have thought before, or how long you have been negatively focused.
You can deliberately focus—right now—on an improved thought.
Because the Law of Attraction is responding to your current
thought, more thoughts like that current thought are most
likely to come into focus for you. In other words, Law of Attraction
(that which is like unto itself is drawn) will continue to dish up for
you more and more thoughts that match your current Vibrational
frequency.
The more you deliberately choose better-feeling thoughts,
the more easy and ready access you will have to those thoughts.
But there is another fast and effective way to raise your Vibration
and to put yourself in the position of having access to much better
feeling thoughts: By focusing upon your breathing, you will
deactivate resistant thought. In doing so, your Vibration immediately
rises until it finds resonance and alignment with the Vibration
of your Source, inside your Vortex.
We teach meditation because it is actually easier, in some
situations, to help you find “no thought” than to find a positive
thought...
There is no better path to wonderful, meaningful, good-feeling
relationships than the combination of a daily meditation—allowing
your Vibration to find it’s natural balance—and the deliberate
focusing upon Positive Aspects.
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It is certain that you can find
the relationships that you desire,
but first there is something
very important that you must do:
you must become a Vibrational match
to the qualities that you seek,
because what comes to you
always matches you.
Often people believe finding a mate who loves them will
be the answer to everything missing in their life experience.
They want to find that one person who will, in essence, complete
them. And almost without exception, they want that person,
right here, right now!
But because we understand the Law of Attraction as we do, we
encourage them to ease up a bit on the “right here, right now” part,
for this very important reason: If you insist on choosing a mate
right now, that mate will be a Vibrational match to how you feel
right now. The person who comes right now will be a match to
the person you are right now.
When you are feeling misunderstood or lonely, or unloved,
you cannot find a mate who will offer anything different to you.
If you have predominantly been noticing the absence of a
wonderful relationship, the presence of a wonderful relationship
cannot occur. Not right now.
If you are seeking a joyful relationship, you must become joyful first.
Asking for a relationship to make you joyful is a backwards approach.
If you are seeking a satisfying relationship, you must become
satisfied first.
If you are seeking a relationship full of fun and great timing and
excitement, you must become full of fun and great timing and
excitement, first.
How you feel equals who you are. And who-you-are equals
everything that comes to you. The powerful Law of Attraction
insists on that.
The most accurate way to assess your chronic Vibrational
offering is to pay attention to the relationships you now have.
The people who are drawn to you are a perfect reflection of your
chronic thoughts, how you are feeling, and of your point of attraction.
And you have complete control about that.
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Focus on the best you can in others:
and when characteristics you want are missing,
practice seeing them anyway—
for when you practice the thoughts
of the things that you desire,
they must show up in your experience.
It is Law.
Every person with whom you interact holds a wide variety
of Vibrational potential for you to choose from. And in the
same way that you deliberately select the things you want to
experience for lunch as you choose from the food buffet, you
can choose the characteristics of the people you are interacting
with as well.
Even if the majority of what others are living and feeling and
being is not pleasing to you, still you have the ability to look for
and find characteristics that do please you. And when you make
that your common practice, you will attract increasingly better
experiences to yourself from each of them.
Remember that whenever a problematic aspect of another
person is coming into your focus, an equivalent solution
is coming into focus, as well. And even though that person may
be very far away from manifesting or experiencing the solution,
it is still there. It is still within reach; and with practice, you will
be able to see it.
If you are determined to feel good and are therefore equally
determined to stay in your own Vortex, not only will you be able
to see more and more positive aspects in others, but, in time,
you will inspire them to begin seeing them in themselves, as well.
When you magnify a Vibrational aspect of anything by giving
your attention to it, your spotlight makes it easier for others
to see it as well.
Your attention to the positive aspects in others feels good to you
because it causes you to find alignment with your Inner Being,
but it also causes you to find alignment with their Inner Being—with
who they really are.
By tuning to the frequency of your Source through this daily meditation,
you will have access only to the best of everyone you meet.
There is no greater gift that you can give to anyone than the gift of
recognizing them as they really are.
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You are doing extremely well.
The relationships that you seek
are flowing to you.
Relax and enjoy the unfolding…
Feel appreciation for what-is,
and eagerness for what is coming…
There is great love here for you.
And, as always, we remain,
in the Vortex.
You have come forth into this physical time-space reality
with billions of other humans, understanding the immense
value that you offer to each other and to All-That-Is. The splendor
and richness of the relationships that you will find with others
with whom you share this planet hinges completely on the
relationship that you deliberately foster between the physical
you and your Non-physical counterpart, your Inner Being.
Your Inner Being demonstrates a never-ending willingness to continue
seeing only your value and goodness, holding that Vibration as a
place-marker for you whenever you are ready to align with it. Seeing
you there even when you do not see it.
We take enormous pleasure in offering these Law-based,
Universal concepts to you in a logical presentation because we
know the pleasure you will find when you discover your pure
resonance with them.
We also take enormous pleasure in understanding that there is
nothing in all of the Universe more natural than for you to feel good,
and that none of the words that we have offered here in this book
are necessary in order for you to bring that about.
If the only decision that we have inspired (as a result of the written
and recorded message that we have offered here) is that you sit each day,
for 15 minutes only, while breathing to the rhythm of the music—focusing
softly, with the intention of blending your breaths, one by one, with
the tempo of the music in the background—that will be enough.
Enough for you to release all resistance, all discomfort, all illness,
all loneliness, all unwantedness... as you feel that being replaced,
breath by breath, with the clarity, vitality, ease, flow and love of your
Source within you.
There is great love here for you!
Abraham
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